Gay & Lesbian Depression Counseling

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At it's heart, depression is about covering someting up or holding something down, whether it's buried emotions, like anger or grief; pushing down some painful memory, or suppressing some essential truth about yourself or your life.  Depression means something is being pressed-down. 

It takes an enormous amount of mental and emotional energy to hold something down, like trying to keep a beach ball held under water.  Depression isn't a true emotion in and of itself, but a condition, a kind of syndrome; depression is the suppression of real emotion.  It's the experience you're left with when all of your energy is being siphoned off to hold down some other important and true part of yourself. 

"Breathe.  Breathe in acceptance, breathe out criticism.  Breathe again.  Breathe in love, breathe out hatred.  Breathe again.  Breathe in whatever you want, and breathe out whatever no longer serves you."  Daniel Levin

And the best thing you can do for you significant other, your family, and your friends, is to be the strongest, best, healthiest you that you can be.  I encourage you to imagine a happier, stronger version of yourself, and then take the next step. If you have any specific questions, please feel free to email me or give me a call.  I would be happy to talk with you.  EE


"In my practice, people trace depression back to trauma most of the time. Emotional trauma is an overwhelming shock to a person’s equilibrium."
  Check out this great and very valuable aritlce.  A lot of clients believe they can deal with their depression simply by doing health-based and behavioral interventions, and there is a wide array of therapists who take this one-dimensional approach.  It may have some value, but it always leaves the client in a perpetual state of simply "managing" their depression, and giving up hope of every being free of it. 

The thing about depression is that at it's core, it means that you are using all your mental/emotional energy to keep something down.  It might be a feeling, a memory, or some important truth.  When you can get to the core of the issue, you can actually be *free* of depression, and not just hope to "manage" it for the rest of you life, with medications, and taking walks, and trying to meditate. 

I think it's so important for clients to be able to get to the root of their depression and finally deal with *that,* and then become free.  I am a therapist who addresses causes and not just symptoms.  Treat the fire, not just the smoke! 

Please contact me; I would be happy to help. Feel free to give me a call at 805-868-0767.

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Erik Edler LMFT