Erik Edler 2020

Counseling & Psychotherapy in SLO / the Central Coast / California

I want you to feel encouraged, and know there is hope.  Together we can help you achieve strength, confidence, peace of mind, and a healthy relationship.  Counseling, psychotherapy, and coaching focus on achieving the goals and making the improvements that are needed to change your life for the better. It's important to find the right therapist/counselor who can help you.  I am dedicated to providing counseling, psychotherapy, and coaching services in San Luis Obispo and to the Central Coast.  I am able to meet with local clients in person, and I see many clients by video as well.  Let me know what you prefer, and we can talk about our options.  In addition, I can see clients from any part of California by video. Pease feel free to give me a call at 805-868-0767 with any questions you might have.

This year has been a difficult one, and I have seen stress, anxiety, and depression rise significantly in people recent years, and especially this past year.  You find yourself dealing with the multiple stressors of our nation in crisis, while also trying to carry on and make progress with your individual life.  Dealing with the increased demands placed on you might be breaking you down.  I want you to know there is help and there is a way forward, to a much better mental/emotional state, and a much better life situation.  

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My approach to therapy combines the best of short-term, solution-focused therapy and deeper-level psychodynamic therapy. Major studies have shown that psychodynamic therapy not only produces better results than simple supportive therapy or cognitive-behavioral therapy, but that clients actually continue to improve for months and even years after completing therapy.  That is truly remarkable.  ("Getting to Know Me," by Jonathan Shedler, Scientific American Mind, 12/10 & "The Idea That Wouldn't Die," by Molly Knight Raskin, Psychology Today, 6/11).  Many therapists, like many medical doctors, treat the symptoms, but not the cause.  It's like treating the smoke but not the fire!  If you have the opportunity to get to the actual root cause of an issue, you should take it.  Some therapists believe that people should expect that they'll just need to keep going back to therapy again and again every time their same symptoms return. I believe, and I have seen, that people are capable of real transformation.  Working through the core issues once and for all can also allow people to function well without medication, depending on the condition.  Keep in mind, this may not mean a quick fix.  Deeper work takes time, but deeper work is more transformational, and it's the kind of change that will last a lifetime.  

I really like this YouTube video.  This Buddhist monk talks about his own experience in therapy.  His experience and the things he learned line up very closely with my approach to therapy treatment.  He talks specifically about his experience as an Introvert, but what he discovered applies to everyone and the many aspects of each person's individual Selfhood.   You have to know and understand your essence, your core identity, for true and lasting mental health.  The video is about 20 minutes long.  At the end he shares why he is a Buddhist, but you can take what's helpful to you and let go of the rest.

My treatment approach focuses on helping you address important issues, such as grief and loss, depression and discouragement, loneliness, finding a partner or breaking up, anxiety and stress, and trauma and PTSD issues.  I help both straight and gay/lesbian clients work through their internal and interpersonal conflicts, and find better ways of relating and living with themselves and with others.  I work with people going through major life transitions, especially including the challenges of launching as a college student or as a young professional, and the specific challenges of midlife, including midlife crisis issues.  I love to work with people as a life coach, to help you find meaning, clarity, direction, and empowerment in your life.  And I can include the spiritual aspects of life, health, and growth, if this is a valuable dimension of who you are.  I can meet you wherever you are and bring that perspective into our work with grace and respect.  

Some clients just need a lot of listening; they just need to be heard.  In that process, they figure out what they're feeling and what they need to do next.  Other clients need solid information, answers to questions, and a lot of feedback.  Most of the time, it's a matter of finding the right balance between the two.  A good therapist will know what you need. I tailor my approach to how you work best.  Together we'll talk about your goals and how much time you'll need to reach them.  In a comfortable and supportive atmosphere, I offer a highly personalized approach tailored to your individual needs.  

There's a place for biological explanations and medication, but what I've seen over and over again is that people who are depressed and anxious feel that way for perfectly understandable reasons.  Very likely, your essential psychological needs aren't being met.  It's not just your "brain chemistry." It's how you think, what you've been through, what you're going through, and what you need to do to fix your life.  I support medication for anyone who would like it to be a part of their treatment.  I'd also say that *anything* that reduces depression should be considered an *antidepressant.*  Psychotherapy is the non-medication cure for depression.  And I'll also mention that they have found that yoga, meditation, and exercise can actually have the same level of effectiveness as medication in clinical trials.

We've lived in tribes for thousands of years, and our sense of safety and well-being largely comes from feeling the support and closeness of that tribe around you.  In our modern world, our connections have become so disbanded.  On a deep level, unconscious or only semi-conscious, we sense that something is missing, and we feel that we aren't safe without the security of our family, friends, and significant other.  What our culture is offering us, what we're getting with social media, are only hollow versions of what we instinctively need.  TV, games, screens; it's all lots of "food" but without "nutrition."  We have so much yet we feel chronically deprived and unsatisfied, physically and psychologically.  We think that we have so much, but we're really starving emotionally.  The farther we drift from the true principles of psychological health, the more you will feel the emotional pain of being alienated from the things that really matter.

You can choose to take the next step forward.  I'll be there to help.  Please contact me with any questions you might have, or for a free 30-minute phone consultation.

"May we grow spiritually, unfold emotionally, learn intellectually, and prosper in wholeness of health and affairs."  Craig Carter, Handbook for Healing

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Erik Edler LMFT